Monday, April 20, 2026

Masculinity Mondays: 21

 

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Magic, masculinity, and life in general all share a common requirement; you need to have a single, clear, specific focus that you direct your attention, energy, and efforts at.  Not "towards", but at.  Directly at, with fixed attention.

In magic, the purpose of a wand, staff, or athame is not to create energy for a spell or working, but to serve as a physical reminder for the magician to remain in mental contact with their point of focus.

Warriors follow orders - the direction of their focus is chosen for them.
Magicians have to identify their own focus.
While a warrior has the whole field of battle to consider, a magician has to reduce everything they could do, and want, to a single focus.

That reducing down of desire and ambition can be the work of a lifetime.

You may not believe, or have any interest in, magic - but you still need to do the work of applying the principle of singularity of focus to the process of becoming a man. You have to decide what kind of man you want to be, what kind of life you want to have, in a way that can be expressed in a single sentence, and focus all your effort on that intent.

Once you've made the decision of what the focus of your life and your masculinity will be, everything and everyone you engage with should contribute towards enhancing that focus - from the people you surround yourself with to the media you consume, through the opportunities you pursue, everything you bring into your circle should serve the role of a crystal in an occult working; to amplify and add to the energies that are flowing towards your focus.

The kind of masculinity I want to inhabit is encapsulated by the expression - the concept, the focus - scholar sage; a man who lives with intelligent wisdom, but doesn't rest on the laurels of either intelligence or wisdom, but is rather committed to lifelong learning.

The kind of life I want to create is encapsulated as legacy - I want to leave a path that others can follow, to a place worth the journey.

In order to achieve those intentions, the things I bring into my circle are time, space, and quiet to recharge, so that I'm able to think creatively, people who can offer genuine challenge without aggression, who can exchange ideas without any of us feeling intimidated by each other's inspiration, and who can help with things my disabilities make difficult for me.

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